Gimme Five – Part Two: Powerful Reflection to Increase Happiness and Boost Success “Where are they?” By Debbie Lyn Toomey

Gimme Five – Part Two:
Powerful Reflection to Increase Happiness and Boost Success

“Where are they?”

By Debbie Lyn Toomey

If you recall, in part one of this article, I shared with you a message that I heard during a recent National Speakers Association Influence conference. It was a powerful statement from one of the gifted keynote speakers. It stirred me up inside and motivated me to really reflect upon what it meant to me. The message was:

You are the sum of the five people you hang around with most.

In part one, I asked you to list the five influencers who are currently positively impacting you and your career. I also asked you questions to think about to help you determine who they are. Moreover, I explained it’s not about the quantity but rather the quality of people that you have in your life.

Truthfully, there have been times in my life when I have hung around mostly with only one or two people. I didn’t have five all the time in my journey because I didn’t need them. I was happy with those who supported me and what I was accomplishing with them at my side. But as I grew as a person and changed, the people I spent time with changed also—except for my husband, of course. I met new friends and hired coaches to help me reach my goals.

I found that, as we open ourselves up to new possibilities, we attract new teachers and allies to help us along the way. In this article, I will share with you five steps to help you find and attract such people. Once again, the number five is not etched in stone. It’s just a number to challenge us to think about who, in life, is in our corner, has our back, and provides an example for us to model. If you don’t have any or enough positive influencers in your life, there are ways to find them. No worries.

First of all, ask yourself if you are fine with your life and your career and have enough people to support and encourage you. If your answer is yes, then you are all set. However, if your answer is no, then there are ways to gain more positive influencers in your life.

Here are five steps (and a bonus step!) to get you started. These steps have consistently helped me in the past.

1. Who — Set an intention. Whether it’s finding a new mate, looking for a coach, or needing an accountability buddy, the clearer you are, the better.

2. What — Establish your needs. What area in your career do you want the new person to help or support you with?

3. Where — Locate the person or persons. If you know #2, then you will have a better idea of where to find people.

4. How — Follow-up. Forge relationships by following up with people you’ve met. Ask when you can meet up one-to-one.

5. Why — Share your big why. Once you’ve gotten to know each other, explain to your new connections your big “why” and ask what theirs are as well. This will deepen your relationships. The more you know about your new acquaintances, the more likely you will see if they are in alignment with who you are and what your dreams are.

6. Bonus — Tell them what they mean to you and thank them. After you meet with these people for a while, I encourage you to show your appreciation by letting them know how much they have helped you.

It’s important to note that we are all on our own happiness and success journeys. That means that, even though you may have certain people in your top five, they may not have you as one of theirs. Don’t take this personally. It’s not about you. It’s about them and where they are in their personal and professional life.

I wish you much success in this exercise. Be patient with this process as you find your next influencer. They are all worth the wait and the work you put into looking for them. I hope that this exercise helps you as much as it has helped me. If you are looking for a coach to help you reach your goals, contact me at info@HealthandHappinessSpecialist.com.

Why Gratitude is Important

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Why Gratitude Is Important For Young Kids, Teachers and Parents

Everybody has something in their life to feel grateful for, but we don’t always have the time to appreciate it. There is now an increased awareness of the importance of having a positive mental attitude, and there are many reasons behind this. A mind which uses the belief that success will come is far more powerful when compared to a mind which has doubts and reservations. By taking into consideration the emotions which supply negativity, we can then begin to eliminate them from our lives, boosting our happiness and success.

Gratitude for Teachers

Many teachers will have a picture of their children on their desk, to remind them that they have something to feel happy for. This keeps them filled with positive energy, and in turn, this energy is passed on to the school children. As you can see, positivity is contagious, and it can have a huge effect on those around you if you utilize it to your advantage.

Gratitude for Young Kids

Children can pick up on our emotions, sometimes better than other adults can. Although they cannot always express this, it can really have an effect on their lives. For example, if a child attends a class which is positive and filled with opportunity, they will learn faster, be more engaged and they will also feel better about themselves through a positive learning experience. Although this form of gratitude isn’t the same as the example above, they will still feel the same emotion. Children don’t always know how to display gratitude, but by simply recognizing it, they can develop into thoughtful and considerate human beings.

Gratitude for Parents

If you are a parent, then you will certainly understand the concept of gratitude. As a parent, you may feel as though you are overwhelmed with your daily life, but this doesn’t mean that you don’t have gratitude for the things around you, it simply means that you aren’t showing it through your emotions. By showing gratitude to your children, your family and your work colleagues, you can be sure to feel more positive about yourself because it makes you realize how lucky you really are.